When The World Turns Upside Down.

Within the political arena, the term "October Surprise" has long held a place of intrigue and anticipation. It refers to those unexpected, game-changing events that, like a bolt of lightning in the October sky, can dramatically alter the trajectory of an election. The origins of this term date back to the late 20th century when the notion of a sudden, last-minute revelation or scandal became synonymous with political strategy. But one wonders, how might the concept of an "October Surprise" find its way into the delicate world of couples' therapy, particularly within the framework of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)? In the realm of intimate relationships, an "October Surprise" might not come in the form of a political bombshell, but it can take the shape of unexpected emotional revelations. Couples engaged in therapy may harbor concealed emotions or unexpressed needs, much like a hidden political agenda. These concealed feelings, if not addressed, can lead to an emotional climax that, in its own way, can change the course of the relationship. This is where the principles of EFT shine, as therapists seek to uncover these emotional surprises, delve into the depths of unspoken truths, and, through empathetic exploration, guide couples toward healing and renewed intimacy. In the intimate theater of couples' therapy, as in the world of politics, it is often the unforeseen emotional revelations that hold the power to reshape the narrative. Just as the "October Surprise" forces politicians to adapt to new realities, so does the sudden unveiling of hidden emotions prompt couples to reevaluate their connections and chart a course towards a more harmonious and fulfilling relationship. For it is in the tender moments of unexpected emotional discoveries that, under the guiding hand of Emotionally Focused Therapy, couples may find a path towards renewed love, trust, and deeper understanding—a true surprise worth celebrating in any season. Now, on with this week’s Ohio EFT Newsletter:

How To Break Up With Your Therapist. by Jancee Dunn on October 16th, 2023 Moving on can be a sign of growth, experts say. Step one: Try not to ghost. (Am I right or am I right?) Dr. John Norcross has researched the ways people end therapy, and spoke with Jancee Dunn about his findings in this recent NYTimes article. Can AI Do Empathy Even Better Than Humans? Companies Are Trying It. by Lisa Bannon on October 16th, 2023 Artificial Intelligence is getting smart enough to express and measure empathy. Here’s how the new technology could change healthcare, customer service—and your therapy sessions. 8 Sex Myths That Experts Wish Would Go Away. by Catherine Pearson on October 16th, 2023 Everyone else is having more sex than you. Men want sex more than women do. And more. Ohio EFT’s Monthly Google Meet Video Call - Next Friday October 27th @ 9:00am (EST) by Ohio EFT on October 16th, 2023 Join us at 9:00am next Friday, October 27th, for our continuing discussion about Emotionally Focused Therapy. We’re continuing with Stage 1 this month, highlighting Step 3. Here’s the link.

Watch Out for This Common Intimacy Killer. by Jancee Dunn on October 16th, 2023 For couples in long-term relationships, the “bristle reaction” can make physical connection difficult, experts say. This article from The New York Times explains what it means and why a six-second kiss can make all the difference. Stop Obsessing About Work All the Time. by Rachel Feintzeig on October 16th, 2023 A revenge fantasy about your boss. Your to-do list. That flop of a meeting. You need to quit ruminating about your job. Here’s how to do it.

Make Friends With Another Couple. Your Relationship May Depend On It. by Elizabeth Bernstein on October 16th, 2023 Finding the right match is tricky, but a psychology professor at University of Georgia says it’s worth the effort. Fall Is The Best Time To Prepare For Winter Seasonal Depression. by Richard Sima on October 16th, 2023 A fall check-up can help you prepare for - and potentially prevent - winter seasonal affective disorder. The Washington Post has details on how to prepare. More Free COVID Tests. by Recommendo on October 16th, 2023 Residents of the US can get 4 free Covid home tests mailed to them just by signing up here at this US covid.gov site. This offer works even if you got free tests from the earlier round.

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